The Broker's Playbook: When Entitlement Turns into Anonymous Harassment

There's a pattern I've seen too many times to ignore. It doesn't start with conflict. It starts with expectation. The unspoken kind, the entitled kind, the kind that believes access is a birthright and accountability is a personal attack.

You say no once, and they don't just move on. They recalibrate for war.

Last week, I published something deeply personal about family estrangement. It was unfiltered and raw, anchored in reality I've been living with for years. I expected pushback from people actually involved. What I didn't expect was watching a textbook narcissistic injury play out in real time. The moment I made myself vulnerable, a broker weaponized it. They didn't show up with facts or courage.

They showed up with a burner handle and a recycled threat, right on schedule.

I see one notification, a comment appeared on my article from "Justiceiscoming." (C'mon guys, I didn't even have to read the comment)

You can always smell it when someone's trying to scare you but doesn't have the balls to use their real name. The tone is familiar. The timing is obvious. The projection is almost comical.

"In an all too predictable pattern, Henk left out the most important part of this entirely one sided and manipulative narrative…"

This person doesn't know the people involved. They don't know the history. They don't know anything except how to retaliate when they don't get what they want.

This wasn't a family member defending themselves. This was a broker weaponizing thirdhand gossip to destroy my credibility over a business dispute. And just like clockwork, they ran straight to anonymity, as if hiding behind a username could make cowardice look like principle.

Let's not pretend this is anything other than what it is: creepy, performative harassment that's becoming disturbingly common in this industry.

Because when certain brokers don't get what they want, they don't just disappear. They metastasize. They create hundreds of fake accounts to flood our Facebook page with the same coordinated nonsense. They send those ridiculous threats: "My friend at the AG's office said this week is going to be big." "The FBI is watching." "Justice is coming."

Come on. At least try to be subtle about it. The fact that you think creating Account #47 to post the same threat is somehow intimidating just makes this whole thing sadder. We can see you. It's not clever. It's not dangerous. It's not even original. It's just pathetic and creepy.

This week they found an article about estrangement and thought: perfect. This is my moment to twist something personal into professional ammunition. Not because they gave a damn about the story. Because they saw it as leverage.

And let's talk about what this actually looks like to normal people.

Do you realize how unhinged you have to be to send an email accusing someone of something that dark and unrelated to business, all based on a story you likely didn't understand or never read at all?

Picture it: you're a regular broker, checking your inbox. And suddenly there's an email from some frantic burner account making completely fabricated personal accusations. And the source? An article about a grandmother who isn't allowed to know her grandson's name.

Any halfway rational person would stop right there. They'd read the piece and realize it was about professional ethics. About trauma. About boundaries. About silence. Not about anything remotely related to what the email implies.

And then they'd ask the obvious question: what kind of person reads that and thinks, "Time to fabricate sexual abuse allegations"?

I'll tell you what kind: the kind of person who cannot emotionally regulate when denied. The kind who sees every boundary as betrayal and every consequence as proof that they're the victim. The kind who thinks obsessing over someone else's family pain makes them look righteous instead of deeply disturbed.

The brokers getting these emails aren't thinking, "Wow, Henk sounds terrible."

They're thinking, "Who the hell is this person, and why are they so obsessed with someone else's family pain? This is genuinely creepy behavior."

You're not hurting me. You're broadcasting your own mental instability to a professional community that knows exactly what this is. Every new fake account you create, every comment you leave under a burner name, every vague legal threat you toss into the void, it's all proof of the same thing: you don't know how to lose with dignity.

You're not running a smear campaign. You're having a public episode. And we can all see it.

What you're calling justice is actually avoidance, and you know that. You don't get to weaponize trauma because someone maintained professional boundaries. That's not moral outrage. That's emotional opportunism disguised as concern. The kind of concern that only surfaces after you're denied something for free.

They always follow the same cycle:

Charm their way into special treatment. Push boundaries until they're denied. Reframe rejection as betrayal. Weaponize whatever personal information they can find. Hide behind anonymous accounts while making empty threats.

It's not a strategy. It's a tantrum with a thesaurus.

I've watched brokers feign professionalism while spreading lies in the same conversation. I've seen them use therapy language they barely understand to paint themselves as victims while coordinating character assassinations through their army of sock puppets.

And when they really want to feel powerful? They attack the part of you that isn't for sale.

For me, that was family. They saw something I shared in grief and tried to turn it into scandal. Not because they believed it. Because they knew it might sting.

What they didn't account for was this: I've already grieved the version of them I needed to believe in. What's left now is just clarity about who they actually are when they don't get what they want.

I don't scare easily. I document everything.

So if you're in this industry and someone starts with kindness and ends with anonymous accusations, pay attention. That's not a personality disorder. That's a business strategy. And it's always the same script, always performed by people too fragile to be told no.

And if justice really is coming? Maybe pick a username that doesn't telegraph your intentions so obviously. When you lean that hard into the drama, the effect dies.

This is for anyone who's had their boundaries turned into battlegrounds. Who's watched entitled customers transform into anonymous stalkers. Who's been told that staying quiet is "professional" while getting smeared behind the scenes.

You're not paranoid. You're being targeted by people who think obsessing over your personal life is a reasonable response to business rejection.

They're hoping you don't recognize the pattern. I'm just here to call it what it is and watch how fast they unravel when they realize they've lost control of the narrative.

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Love that for them.